The Secret Of Love

The Condition Of Unconditionality

He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’^[a]; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

Mark 12:30-31

LOVE IS A VIBRATIONAL FREQUENCY

When we feel love we know it through resonance with a field of love that is established from and between the core of ourselves with another. You either feel it or you don't depending upon the mutual reciprocity of the field established. You must at first be capable of resonating at that frequency within yourself in order for the possibility of establishing that reciprocity with another, who must also be capable of resonating at that frequency within themselves.

When sincerity and authenticity is signaled by another they are displaying the capability of love and this a show of intent on their behalf of being open to such a relationship, and in certain appropriate circumstances is a mating call as such. The ability to be vulnerable, spontaneous and genuine is the signal of love that sets up the intent to establish such mutual reciprocity between two who are seeking to bond in such a way.

So it is the frequency that we carry within ourselves that make it possible to resonate with another at a similar frequency, ranging from acquaintanceship to soul mates.

We sustain feelings of wellbeing throughout our lifetimes based upon our ability to hold such frequencies and so the love that we receive from those closest to us as we grow up is as important as a tuning instrument for the creation of harmonic melodies.

Where family breaks down is precisely at the points where love has failed. Love is a frequency. It is not money, prestige or power. These things such a broken family can endow but love it cannot. Love is a feeling that we get when we resonate at a level of wellbeing within ourselves and where that does not exist is indicative that it was never sufficiently nurtured to begin with.

Love is established upon the principle of Know Thy Self for we cannot love another unless we first know ourselves. Where such knowledge is scarce love cannot be sustained.

We know love with another by first knowing ourselves for we can only know another in so far as we already know ourselves.

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When the most powerful microscopes made by man pierced through the densest of solid matter scientists discovered the strangest phenomenon. The underlying basis of what on the surface seemed to be impenetrable, was light.

When the the most powerful of telescopes pierced the farthest reaches of the universe what scientist found was even more baffling. What appeared to be permanent aspects of space appeared to be pixels.

True love transcends the physical world and is spiritual in nature. It speaks to a profound level of self knowledge in both participants and therefore goes further than appearances, for we cannot know a person any deeper or meaningfully than we know ourselves.

It is unconditional and places no demands upon a person as it doesn't require them to change in any way or to mould the other into an expected outward persona.

It never causes harm or hurts another in any way and is loyal under even the most trying of circumstances.

True love is the natural expression of a soul in attunement with its own essence. It binds and holds together

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True love is always there, in the sound of the rain, in the foam of a wave, in the rays of the sun, carried by the breeze…it’s never less, always more, from morning till night and from twilight till morning. It fills the heart’s empty spaces and seals its the cracks, and lights up the Soul. It simply IS.

All too often there are conditions, demands attached to love, of changing habits, of behaviour, of speech. Valentine’s Day, the day of love, is the day par excellence for (unspoken) demands and wishes: a dinner at a fancy restaurant, roses, and preferably a piece of jewelry to be shown as token of love.

Behaviour that is not in line with preconceived ideas should be changed, moulded into the preferred outcome until there’s nothing left of spontaneity.

And with every condition or demand love seems to disappear more in the mundane reality of materialism. The gifts for birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, the flowers, the cards, the dinners. Expectations are high, disappointment for not getting the desired outcome is deep. In the end, the fire of love is reduced to some embers.

Conditions make love transactional, an expression of status, of ego, of outward appearances. Many women in the Middle East, in particular in the Gulf region, can be seen wearing rows of bracelets, and, often hidden under their clothes, more jewelry like necklaces. Not because they are so loved or cherished, but to show the status and wealth of the husband and his family. The higher the status, the greater the wealth, the more jewelry. And not made of 9/14/18 Carat gold but quite often 22.

Paradoxically, Love has only one condition to be able to grow, blossom, strengthen: unconditionality.